Wikipedia defines quality time as time spent with close family or friends that is important, special or productive. It is time set aside for paying full and undivided attention to the person you are with. So quality time doesn’t mean watching TV together or half-listening to your child while you do something else. It requires undivided attention, eye contact and really listening. It is a powerful way to build a positive relationship.
It’s things like reading a story to your child, building a cubby house out of sheets and then sitting in it with your child, talking with your teenager on a car trip, playing monopoly right to the end on a rainy weekend or… taking your daughter to her physie competition.
Time spent with your daughter at a physie comp says “you’re important enough to be worth my time” (and that goes for big girls too not just little girls). And it’s the perfect opportunity for mum or dad to give encouragement and shower her with praise.
Sigi says “After ten years of doing Indy’s hair and makeup it’s nice to sit back and be looked after. Physie teaches our girls so much – poise, confidence, presentation – and how to look after their mums!Praise for how beautiful she looks, how strong she has become, how hard she has tried and how brave she is to perform her physie in front of a big audience. For mums who do physie too, an interclub competition where mum and daughter both compete on the same day, can be a wonderful bonding experience. Like this story from Sigi, where the tables were turned and her daughter Indy did her makeup for their interclub.
Just like my mum did for me, I have done Indy’s hair and make-up for all her competitions for the past 10 years. As she grows into a beautiful, confident young woman it’s so lovely to watch her develop skills not only in dancing but also in other areas. Even at only 14 she can do her own hair and makeup and now she’s doing mine!!! I still like to fuss over her and make sure everything is perfect but it’s also nice to sit back and have her look after me.”